Showing posts with label Domestic Violence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Domestic Violence. Show all posts

Saturday, April 16, 2011

Text for Domestic Violence

So many of us want to do something to help fight Domestic Violence but where do we start? This issue seems so overwhelming and so threatening that it easily induces Jess's phrase - "Impending Sense of Doom."

Well we have had the pleasure to work with The National Domestic Violence Hotline on a number of their campaigns. As the leading organization on the front lines of this issue, The NDVH provides crisis intervention, information and referral to victims of domestic violence, perpetrators, friends and families.The Hotline answers a variety of calls and is a resource for domestic violence advocates government officials, law enforcement agencies and the general public.

Through working with NDVH, we have learned that there are a variety of things that you can do to help fight this issue in one minute. Please Click here for a variety of ways that you can help NDVH, or click here for ways to get involved with Love is Respect, the teen dating abuse hotline.

Today I chose to take part in their text to give campaign. All you have to do is Text “HOTLINE” to 85944 and you donate $10 to this amazing organization. If you aren't able to donate financially, please check consider alternate programs related to DV and teen abuse that don't require financial contribution.

Will you join me in support of this wonderful organization?
Alicia


Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Update from Doorways



As many of you know, I donated some goods to Doorways for Women and Families as part of my 46 day challenge.

Well I just got a note from them. On the card it says:
"Without in-kind contributions like your, Doorways would spend over $1,000 every month on groceries, household and personal items."

So if you are thinking of giving to your local shelter, hopefully these words will help motivate you to action!

Thanks,
Alicia

Saturday, March 19, 2011

Help Support Women and Children


In Worcester, Massachusetts there's a women's shelter called Abby's House. Growing up, my family made various donations to Abby's House. We've donated money, clothes, household supplies and food. While we were filing our feature film, For Belly, we wound up with a large quantity of food and food supplies left over. Rather than throwing them away, we gave them to Abby's House. This has been so ingrained in Jess and my brain's that when we were working on one minute actions for What You Can Do, we knew that we wanted to find a Woman's Shelter that accepted donations.

We found Doorways for Women and Children outside of Washington DC. One of the things that made us choose this shelter was the fact that they have a wishlist on their website, so patrons can know what items are of greatest need to Doorways at a given time. When I decided to add this to my 46 day challenge, I revisited their website and I found that Doorways now has an Amazon Wishlist to make it even easier. Simply click on the item that you would like to purchase, and Amazon will package and ship directly for you. One stop shopping as they say.

Shelters can serve as a lifeline for families that are getting out of a violent situation, so if you have even one minute will you consider doing something to help? ConsiderAbby's House, Doorways for Women and Children, or a local shelterin your area.

Thanks!
Alicia


Saturday, October 23, 2010

Our Interview with the American Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center (Part 2)

Below is Part 2 of our interview with Brooke Galloway, Development and Policy Director at American Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center. Although this final portion of our interview is only one question, I found Brooke’s answer so illuminating and profound that it stood on its own.

What has been the most surprising thing about being a part of this organization?

The most surprising thing about being a part of this organization has been the evident dedication and commitment to ending intimate partner violence from the crisis line staff, crisis line volunteers, outreach volunteers, and the Americans overseas community. The zeal and inspiration for serving this population comes from the strength of AODVC’s visionary leader, Founder, and Executive Director, Paula Lucas.

For 14 years Paula lived what looked like an ideal life as an American overseas: A Newsweek photojournalist husband, worldwide travel, a successful advertising, marketing and PR business and three beautiful sons. She also hid a terrible secret: the children suffered severe child abuse and Paula, horrific domestic violence, at the hands of her husband, making every day a nightmare.
As the violence increased, so did her desperation. In 1997, she finally disclosed the abuse to her brother in California. Her family called the State Department, congress people and senators. Paula went to the American Embassy and pleaded for help. Their efforts were futile.

Finally her chance to escape materialized, thanks to a thief. Robbed of his passport and money on a train in Germany, her husband was locked outside of the country. Paula searched her husband's offices for the children's American passports which her husband had hidden. After a month of searching she was about to give up. In despair, Paula sat sobbing with her face in her hands. That's when she believes a guardian angel pointed her back to a file she had already checked. Inside, there were her children's passports.

Without access to her own money, Paula forged her husband's signature on a check for just enough money to get them to her sister's house in Oregon. She also forged her husband's signature on documents giving her permission to leave the country with the children. She knew if she were caught, she would be put in prison, or worse. But she also knew the possibility of lethality when her husband returned was very high. In the middle of the night, with one suit case and her three children, she took a taxi to the airport in Dubai and prayed. Paula tried not to show her fear as they shuffled through immigration and boarded a flight to New York, and to freedom. Once in New York, the four of them piled onto a train to Oregon, a three day journey.

At her sister's house outside of Portland, Paula's relief was short lived. She found out that even though she, the children, and her husband were all American, he had the right to fight her for jurisdiction and force her to take the boys back to the Middle East - a certain death sentence. In disbelief, she fled her sister's house and went into hiding, living in shelters, on food stamps and welfare while fighting a costly legal battle she never expected to keep her American children in the United States. If she lost, she vowed she would go underground and disappear permanently rather than take her children back. The battle lasted 18 months and cost tens of thousands of dollars. Finally, the Oregon courts ruled that Paula could keep her sons in Oregon. She was granted divorce and custody in September 2000, but no jurisdiction for child support, alimony or court costs. Her husband received supervised visitation of the children.

Despite experiencing homelessness, poverty and extreme debt after years of abuse, Paula felt she had been given a second chance. She resolved to help other abused American women and children around the world so they would not have to go through what she and her children went through. While living in a shelter, Paula founded a non-profit organization, American Women Overseas, and began her work.



To find out more information on how you can help fight Domestic Violence Overseas, please visit - American Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center.

Friday, October 22, 2010

Safety Plan

Think there's nothing you can do to help fight Domestic Violence in 1 Minute?

Starring - Julie Tortorici
Written by -  Jessica Arinella & Julie Tortorici
Shot, Edited and Directed by - Alicia Arinella
Produced by: On the Leesh Productions
Music by: Banana Whale
What You Can Do Logo Created by: SCG Siddharth Creative Group

Additional Footage Provided by: Shutterstock, Inc. Used by Permission

Statistical Information provided by: The National Domestic Violence Hotline, www.ndvh,org

Special Thanks: Susan Risdon and everyone at the National Domestic Violence Hotline, and Dennis Arinella

For more information, please visit - www.whatyoucando365.com

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Spread the Word about Teen Dating Abuse

Think there's nothing you can do to help fight Teen Dating Abuse in 1 Minute?

Starring - Melissa Jernigan
Written by -  Jessica Arinella & Julie Tortorici
Shot, Edited and Directed by - Alicia Arinella
Produced by: On the Leesh Productions
Music by: Banana Whale
What You Can Do Logo Created by: SCG Siddharth Creative Group

Additional Footage Provided by: Shutterstock, Inc. Used by Permission

Statistical Information provided by: The National Teen Dating Abuse Hotline, www.loveisrespect.org

Special Thanks: Susan Risdon and everyone at the National Domestic Violence Hotline, and Dennis Arinella

For more information, please visit - www.whatyoucando365.com

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Text to Help Fight Domestic Violence

Think there's nothing you can do to help fight Domestic Violence in 1 Minute?

Starring - R. Ernie Silva
Written by -  Jessica Arinella & Julie Tortorici
Shot, Edited and Directed by - Alicia Arinella
Produced by: On the Leesh Productions
Music by: Banana Whale
What You Can Do Logo Created by: SCG Siddharth Creative Group

Additional Footage Provided by: Shutterstock, Inc. Used by Permission

Statistical Information provided by: The National Domestic Violence Hotline, www.ndvh.org

Special Thanks: Susan Risdon and everyone at the National Domestic Violence Hotline, and Dennis Arinella

For more information, please visit - www.whatyoucando365.com

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Help Fight Teen Dating Abuse

Think there's nothing you can do to help fight Teen Dating Abuse in 1 Minute?

Starring - Illiana Inocencio
Written by -  Jessica Arinella & Julie Tortorici
Shot, Edited and Directed by - Alicia Arinella
Produced by: On the Leesh Productions
Music by: Banana Whale
What You Can Do Logo Created by: SCG Siddharth Creative Group

Additional Footage Provided by: Shutterstock, Inc. Used by Permission

Statistical Information provided by: The National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline, www.loveisrespect.org

Special Thanks: Susan Risdon and everyone at The National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline, and Dennis Arinella

For more information, please visit - www.whatyoucando365.com

Monday, October 18, 2010

Help Fight Domestic Violence Overseas

Think there's nothing you can do to help fight Domestic Violence Overseas in 1 Minute?

Starring - Alicia Arinella & Jack Halaby
Written by -  Jessica Arinella & Julie Tortorici
Shot, Edited and Directed by - Alicia Arinella
Produced by: On the Leesh Productions
Music by: Banana Whale
What You Can Do Logo Created by: SCG Siddharth Creative Group

Additional Footage Provided by: Shutterstock, Inc. Used by Permission

Statistical Information provided by: Americans Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center, www.866uswomen.org

Special Thanks: Brooke Galloway and everyone at Americans Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center, and Dennis Arinella

For more information, please visit - www.whatyoucando365.com

Sunday, October 17, 2010

An Interview With American Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center

Since October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, the staff at “What You Can Do” felt it was important to dedicate a week’s worth of videos to combating and preventing domestic violence. In researching organizations for the videos, I came upon the American Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center, which serves American victims of domestic violence living overseas. The need would seem obvious and yet, I suppose it was naivety or sheer ignorance that prevented my own awareness of the issue. What does a domestic violence victim do when they are not in their native country, are perhaps unaware of their legal rights in their adopted land and are without a support system? These are some of the questions I asked Brooke Galloway, Development and Policy Director at American Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center.

Below is PART 1 of our interview.

1. American Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center caters to American victims of domestic violence who live overseas. On your website, you mention that this group of people is under-served or under-represented, can you talk about that a little bit. Why is that the case?

In this era of globalization, there has been an influx in bi-national marriages, overseas assignments, and study abroad programs. There are an estimated 5.25 million Americans living overseas. If these Americans were in one state, it would be the 17th largest state in the nation. Despite its size, this population lacks national recognition. Americans overseas have been excluded from policies directed at ending violence against women and children. At the national level, Americans overseas have been excluded from the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), as it only serves people, no matter their nationality, within the US. Additionally, Americans overseas are excluded from the International Violence Against Women Act (IVAWA), which only serves non-Americans outside of the US. To counter the deficit, AODVC has been working to include the American overseas population in the reauthorization of VAWA by 2012.

In the past year, there has been progress in raising awareness of Americans Abused Abroad. AODVC received the National Crime Victims Service Award from the Office on Victims of Crime, US Department of Justice. While this award honored AODVC, it also shed light on Americans abused abroad at the national level.

2. What are some of the specific challenges a victim of domestic abuse faces when living overseas? Are those challenges more complicated if/ when children are involved?

Americans abused abroad face a myriad of additional barriers on top of the horrific challenges that all domestic violence victims are forced to undergo. These barriers may include lack of access to travel documents, no permission to leave the country, inability to speak the language, unfamiliarity with the legal system, the abuser may be high ranking in the American embassy or local government, and undocumented legal status preventing the survivor from seeking assistance in the foreign country.

In addition to the barriers a survivor faces in a foreign country, when/if they return to the US they may be homeless and penniless, may not qualify for services such as shelter or transitional housing because the abuse occurred overseas, and may have difficulty finding employment.

When children are involved these challenges become more complex creating further barriers for the survivor and the children to live their lives free of abuse. Through the Hague Convention on International Child Abduction and other international jurisdiction laws, an abuser can force a survivor of domestic violence to return the children to the foreign country and attempt to gain custody of them. There are no defenses to these actions and no stated exceptions for domestic violence.

3. If someone is reading this who knows someone experiencing abuse overseas – what should they do?

If anyone reading this is experiencing abuse overseas or knows of someone who is, please contact the Americans Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center. We have a toll-free crisis line accessible from 175 countries worldwide, email, and live chat options. Instructions are available on our website, www.866uswomen.org.

If you are in immediate danger, contact your local authorities.

4. Your website talks about some of the myths regarding the reasons for domestic violence - can you talk a little bit more about those? Is there a perception that if someone is from a different culture then domestic violence is okay?

There are myths and perceptions that different cultures promote violence against women, but this is not the case. Abuse is not a byproduct of culture and it can happen to anyone, no matter their demographic, in any country around the world. However, domestic violence survivors abroad may face additional barriers that require culturally sensitive services and intercultural awareness.

5. What is the goal for American Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center?

The Americans Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center envisions a life where every person’s intimate partner treats them with dignity, respect and compassion; where oppression is replaced with equality; where expression of anger is non-violent and where children grow up in violent-free homes with their self-esteem intact.

Our mission is to continue working with abused Americans and their children in foreign countries to provide domestic violence and child abuse advocacy, resources and tools so that they can navigate the complicated jurisdictional, legal and social international landscapes, to be able to live their lives free of abuse either in the foreign country or back in the United States.

We aim to continue raising awareness of this population around the world and create a coordinated community response through our Global Campaign to Empower Americans Abused Abroad. This multi-faceted campaign has already been conducted in 6 European cities, 2 Chinese cities, 2 Indian cities and 2 Australian cities.



To find out more information on how you can help fight Domestic Violence Overseas, please visit - American Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center.

Saturday, March 20, 2010

An Interview with Candice Hopkins, Director at Loveisrespect.org, The National Dating Abuse Helpline

In our opening interview with a representative from the National Domestic Violence Hotline, we learned (if we hadn’t realized it before) that domestic abuse crosses all socio-economic lines. However, with the need for services like The National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline (loveisrespect.org), it is clear that domestic/dating abuse happens in various age demographics as well. Because many people experience their first relationships as teenagers, we thought it was important to get more information from an expert at the Helpline. Candice Hopkins, Director at loveisrespect.org (the National Dating Abuse Helpline) answers our questions below.


What are some warning signs to look for in teen abusers?
These are some behaviors that a teen who is abusive might exhibit in their relationship.

Peer Pressure
Isolation/Exclusion
Anger/Emotional Abuse
Using Social Status
Sexual Coercion
Threats
Minimize/Deny/Blame
Intimidation

A teen who is abusive will often display the following behaviors specifically:
• Call your girlfriend/boyfriend names?
• Text or call them excessively and get upset when they don’t respond?
• Monitor their email or profile on a social networking site?
• Feel you have a right or need to know where they are most of the time?
• Get jealous or angry when they spend time with friends or family?
• Ask them to change their clothes or style of dress?
• Get in their face during a disagreement?
• Push, slap, or punch them for any reason?
• Restrain them to keep them from leaving during an argument?
• Guilt or force them into having sex?
• Threaten to hurt them or yourself if your relationship ever ends?

If a teen exhibits the behavior in their youth what are the steps to take to keep them from being an abuser in adulthood.
If a young person has displayed abusive or controlling behaviors in their relationships and adults whether parents or other concerned adults have witnessed something or are concerned the first step is to acknowledge the behavior and initiate discussions of healthy relationships. There are limited counseling options available that a teen can be referred to but the best option is parental or other adult influencer involvement on establishing what appropriate and healthy behavior is. We believe that these conversations, interventions, and guidance can help impact the rates of adult domestic violence.

When you’re a teen, you are experiencing relationships for the first time – so how can someone know if/when they are being abused. How can they tell the difference between normal behavior and abuse if they’ve never been in a relationship before?

These are the most common warning signs we share with young people:

Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
• Act jealous or possessive?
Put you down or criticize you?
• Try to control where you go, what you wear or what you do?
• Text or IM you excessively?
Blame you for the hurtful things they say and do?
Threaten to kill or hurt you or themselves if you leave them?
• Try to stop you from seeing or talking to friends and family?
• Try to force you to have sex before you’re ready?
• Do they hit, slap, push or kick you?

Most young people contact loveisrespect because they recognize “something doesn’t feel right” in their relationship. They often do not recognize the warning signs until we are discussing their relationship. Even those who have not been in relationships describe that something said or done to make them uncomfortable, or that a friend or family member expressed concern. Most of the conversations had with young people is around discussion of the warning signs of an unhealthy relationships.

What is the first thing you would tell a parent who suspects that their child is being abused?

If a parent contacts loveisrespect we discuss with them the dynamics of teen dating abuse and validate their concerns. Most parents are seeking information and support about how to talk to their teen about their concerns. We offer suggestions on how to start a conversation with their teen and how to use our web site, events in the media, or curriculums covered in schools as jump off points. In addition we go through safety planning options including discussions on whether or not a parent should make their teen break up with the abusive person, should a parent limit technology, and what the parents’ legal rights and options.

What, in your experience, have been some of the most prevalent myths teens have about abuse?

Many of myths of teen dating abuse are similar to those of adult domestic violence. It is believed teen dating abuse is not a problem in middle and upper middle class schools and environments. That violence is seen only in lower SES schools. Many people believe that teen dating abuse is only the physical and do not acknowledge or recognize the emotionally abusive and controlling behaviors are such a large part of an abusive relationship. Another myth is that the abused in the relationship is either to blame or some aspect of the abuse or has done something wrong by not leaving the relationship. For teens, peer pressure and the social strata of high school deeply impact this myth. In addition, a myth of teen dating abuse is that it is a recent phenomenon. The recent media attention due to celebrities involved in teen dating abuse and the use of technology have created a myth that this is a new issue, but there have always been teens involved in abusive relationship but there is more attention and focus applied at this time. This creates great opportunities for education and awareness.


To learn more, please visit - Love is Respect.

Friday, March 19, 2010

Combat Domestic Violence While You Work

Think there's nothing you can do to combat Domestic Violence at work? Watch this.

Starring: Desmond Dutcher
Written by: Julie Tortorici & Jessica Arinella
Shot, Edited and Directed by: Alicia Arinella
Produced by: On the Leesh Productions
Music by: Banana Whale
What You Can Do Logo Created by: SCG Siddharth Creative Group
Additional Footage Provided by: Shutterstock, Inc. Used by Permission

Statistical information provided by: The National Domestic Violence Hotline, www.ndvh.org

Special Thanks: Retha Fielding and everyone at the National Domestic Violence Hotline, www.ndvh.org, and Dennis Arinella

For more information, please visit - What You Can Do .

Thursday, March 18, 2010

Teen Dating Abuse

Think there's nothing you can do to combat Teen Dating Abuse in 1 Minute? Watch this.

Starring: Maria Perry
Written by: Julie Tortorici & Jessica Arinella
Shot, Edited and Directed by: Alicia Arinella
Produced by: On the Leesh Productions
Music by: Banana Whale
What You Can Do Logo Created by: SCG Siddharth Creative Group
Additional Footage Provided by: Shutterstock, Inc. Used by Permission

Statistical information provided by: The National Teen Dating Abuse Hotline, www.loveisrespect.com

Special Thanks: Margaret Potyrala and everyone at The National Teen Dating Abuse Hotline, www.loveisrespect,org, Retha Fielding and everyone at the National Domestic Violence Hotline, www.ndvh.org, and Dennis Arinella

For more information, please visit - What You Can Do .

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Stand Against Domestic Violence

Think there's nothing you can do to combat Domestic Violence in 1 Minute? Watch this.

Starring: Carolina Caro
Written by: Julie Tortorici & Jessica Arinella
Shot, Edited and Directed by: Alicia Arinella
Produced by: On the Leesh Productions
Music by: Banana Whale
What You Can Do Logo Created by: SCG Siddharth Creative Group
Additional Footage Provided by: Shutterstock, Inc. Used by Permission

Statistical information provided by: The National Domestic VIolence Hotline, www.ndvh.org

Special Thanks: Retha Fielding and everyone at the National Domestic Violence Hotline, www.ndvh.org, and Dennis Arinella

For more information, please visit - What You Can Do .

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Combat Domestic Violence by Supporting Women & Children

Think there's nothing you can do to combat Domestic Violence in 1 Minute? Watch this.

Starring: Taeonna Ancrum
Written by: Julie Tortorici & Jessica Arinella
Shot, Edited and Directed by: Alicia Arinella
Produced by: On the Leesh Productions
Music by: Banana Whale
What You Can Do Logo Created by: SCG Siddharth Creative Group
Additional Footage Provided by: Shutterstock, Inc. Used by Permission

Statistical information provided by: Doorways for Women and Families, www.doorwaysva.org

Special Thanks:
Candice Lopez and everyone at Doorways for Women and Families, and Dennis Arinella

For more information, please visit - What You Can Do .

Monday, March 15, 2010

Combat Domestic Violence

Think there's nothing you can do to combat Domestic Violence in 1 Minute? Watch this.

Starring: Susannah Knox
Written by: Julie Tortorici & Jessica Arinella
Shot, Edited and Directed by: Alicia Arinella
Produced by: On the Leesh Productions
Consulting Producer: Mary Micari
Music by: Banana Whale
What You Can Do Logo Created by: SCG Siddharth Creative Group
Additional Footage Provided by: Shutterstock, Inc. Used by Permission

Statistical information provided by: National Domestic Violence Hotline, thehotline.org

Special Permission from: Recycle 4 Domestic Violence, www.recyclefordomesticviolence.com

Special Thanks:
Retha Fielding and everyone at the National Domestic Violence Hotline, Anna Pollock-Nelson and everyone at Recycle 4 Domestic Violence, Jessica Rakshys and the Rakshys Family, John Kelleran, Siller Wilk LLP

For more information, please visit - What You Can Do .

Sunday, March 14, 2010

An interview with Katie Ray-Jones, Operations Director for the National Domestic Violence Hotline

The National Domestic Violence Hotline has been a vital part of WYCD’s week on Domestic Violence. Created in 1996, the Hotline is a nonprofit organization and serves as a resource for the general public, law enforcement and government officials. It was only natural then, that we asked a representative at the organization to field some of our questions surrounding domestic violence.


The following is an e-mail interview with Katie Ray-Jones, Operations Director for The National Domestic Violence Hotline.


1. On your website (ndvh.org), you have a link that says 'Is this Abuse?', do you find that people are often in denial or have confusion about what domestic abuse is?

Many victims/survivors who call the National Domestic Violence Hotline are unaware of the many different ways their partner can be abusive. People may identify the physical abuse in the relationship, however, once a victim/survivor is speaking with an Advocate it becomes clear how emotional abuse is integrated into the relationship. Additionally, many survivors tell us that the emotional abuse is often the most hurtful type of abuse and the hardest to heal from. We also provide education around sexual abuse. Many women believe it is not possible for their husband/partner to rape them and that it is their duty to have sex or provide sexual acts whenever their partner asks or forces. Another method of abuse that often goes undisclosed is strangulation and we provide education to our callers about the effects strangulation can have.

2. What do you find is the most misunderstood about domestic violence?

People have a hard time understanding why someone stays in an abusive relationship. When friends or family members call the National Domestic Violence Hotline this is often the main source of their frustration. Domestic Violence is a complex issue and the power and control tactics that an abuser uses often leave the victim/survivor fearful for their own safety and in many cases their children’s safety. Additionally, many victim/survivors have been forced into isolation by their partners and believe they do not have anywhere else to go. Many women describe “being broken” by their abuser and feel they do not have the strength to leave the relationship. In many cases, children are involved and the woman is not only afraid for their safety, but does not know how she will be able to support the family.

3. In terms of statistics, do you find that many cases go unreported?

In 2009, 90% of callers to the National Domestic Violence Hotline indicated they had never called a Hotline before. At the NDVH, we speak with every caller about their options. Some victim/survivors have indicated their partner has threatened further actions if they were to call the police. Below is a link, with specific data related to unreported domestic violence cases.

http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/nij/topics/crime/intimate-partner-violence/practical-implications-research/ch2/extent-reported.htm

4. People sometimes reference ‘the face’ of domestic violence – is there such a thing in terms of socio-economic terms? There seems to be this myth that it doesn’t happen in affluent neighborhoods. Where did that come from?

NDVH receives calls from diverse races, religions, sexual orientations, cultures, socioeconomic statuses and backgrounds. People often isolate domestic violence to certain cultural factors whether it be socioeconomic status, education level, particular cultures, etc. This happens for a variety of reasons. Sometimes it is easier for people to believe it doesn’t and can’t happen to them, their sister or their neighbor. It is difficult for people to believe a highly educated, wealthy man who doesn’t have financial stress would abuse his wife. We have had caller’s express their views were shaped on how they were raised, things their friends told them, a movie they saw on television or something they read in the paper. However, it is important to note that there are many families who live in poverty who do not have domestic violence. Domestic Violence is about someone’s need to have power and control over another person and that need is present in all walks of life.

5. We’ve heard two statistics that we were curious about. The first was that the Superbowl has the highest rate of domestic violence – is that true? The second is that domestic violence is one of the leading causes of death in pregnant women. Can you speak to both of these things – whether they are true or not?

From a historical perspective, NDVH has not seen call volume increase around the Superbowl. We have not seen any national studies to support that. What we do know is that domestic violence occurs every day and that in 2009, NDVH averaged 22,000 calls a month.

We are aware of statistics that indicate domestic violence is one of the leading causes of deaths in pregnant women. According to the Center for Disease Control, at least 4 to 8 percent of pregnant women—that's over 300,000 per year—report suffering abuse during pregnancy. Additionally, domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to American women between 15 and 44 and is estimated to be responsible for 20 to 25 percent of all hospital emergency room visits by women.

What we know is that pregnancy can be stressful in all homes. In homes where power and control dynamics are present, physical abuse may occur. We have had many callers who indicated the physical abuse started when she was pregnant. We believe there are several reasons for this. One, a lot of attention is being given to the mom and baby. Most likely she is leaving the home to go to doctor appointments. Her abuser may not like this. We hear stories from women who say their husband didn’t want them to go to the doctor or that their partner didn’t want them to talk about the pregnancy. Additionally, pregnancy may be feeling really tired or nauseous and her partner may become angry that she is not doing things around the house that she normally does.

Also, sometimes pregnancy in abusive relationships is an unintended consequence. Their partner may have raped them or refused to use contraception and then became upset that she is pregnant. Additionally, the abuser may have impregnated their partner to ensure their partner will not leave them.


For more information about how to combat Domestic Violence or to talk to someone who can help, please visit The National Domestic VIolence Hotline.

Thursday, October 22, 2009

Think there's nothing you can do to combat Domestic Violence in 1 Minute?

Think there's nothing you can do to combat Domestic Violence in 1 Minute? Watch this.

Starring: Susannah Knox
Written by: Julie Tortorici & Jessica Arinella
Shot, Edited and Directed by: Alicia Arinella
Produced by: On the Leesh Productions
Consulting Producer: Mary Micari
Music by: Banana Whale
What You Can Do Logo Created by: SCG Siddharth Creative Group
Additional Footage Provided by: Shutterstock, Inc. Used by Permission

Statistical information provided by: National Domestic Violence Hotline, thehotline.org

Special Permission from: Recycle 4 Domestic Violence, www.recyclefordomesticviolence.com

Special Thanks:
Retha Fielding and everyone at the National Domestic Violence Hotline, Anna Pollock-Nelson and everyone at Recycle 4 Domestic Violence
Jessica Rakshys and the Rakshys Family, John Kelleran, Siller Wilk LLP
Dennis Arinella and everyone at WLIW